Who Children Are In Our Lives

I am still on my journey of motherhood and still have a lot to walk out and learn. Ever since I was a little girl, my greatest dream and desire was to be a mother. I knew it was one of my biggest callings in life. So motherhood is a big passion of mine.

What many may not know,  is prior to having Hudson, I worked with children and teenagers for ten years. From ages 3 all the way to women in their twenties. I learned a lot during those years. I am grateful for those years. I believe it helped shaped me into the mother I am for Hudson today. I strongly believe I have been saved from a lot of mistakes as a mother; however, I have made plenty in the last 21 months! I am by no means the perfect mother, but I am so thankful children are the most forgiving human beings. 

I am sharing with what I have learned with working with children, teenagers, and the last 21 months of being a mommy to Hudson. Whether you are a mother, teacher, mentor, or some sort of a role model, you play an important role in the lives of the children around you. And we have the ability to make a difference in their lives somehow, someway.


1. Gifts from God. They aren't mistakes. They are valuable and a prized possession.

2. Our Greatest Priorities. There will always be something to do, especially for working mommies. I have so much honor and respect for mothers who work outside the home. You really are super heros! Don't think for a minute that it "lessens you" as a mother. I have actually seen working moms give their children more attention than non working moms, because they understand their time with their family is valuable. No matter what, they are our greatest priority and should be treated as such.

3. Not An Inconvenience. I remember when we were trying to get pregnant, I would see parents treat their kids as such a bother and inconvenience. You have no idea how much this outraged me. I guess when you want something so bad and go through what we went through you see things a little different. ALL kids have good and bad moments...ALL of them do. When Hudson needs or wants something and I'm in the middle of something, I always remind myself he is not an inconvenience to me. Hudson won't remember having a clean home or whether there were dishes in the sink, but he will always remember when I gave him my undivided attention. I hope one of his favorite memories are the times when we sit on the dirty floor playing trucks. Being a mom is my number one priority, all else can wait.

4. Arrows. Arrows to be aimed at something. Aimed towards greatness. Cheering them towards their destiny. We can either be their greatest cheerleaders or their greatest discourager. I remember when I was in school, I always struggled with academics. My mom never made me feel like a disappointment when I would come home with C's and D's and my brothers would come home with straight A's. She always told me as long as I tried my hardest, that was okay. Now that I look back she was aiming me to do my best no matter what the outcome was and that her love of me wasn't based on my performance. It is important for children to know that your love is NOT conditional.

5. Mirrors. If you have been around children for longer than five minutes, you know children do everything you do! Some good and not. I will never forget the day I was cleaning out Hudson's closet and he was sitting at my feet and something fell and I screamed "OH SHOOT!" and Husdon kept repeating it. However, his version sounded like something else. Children are always watching and learning, even when we don't realize it. I have always said "It is the littlest eyes that see the biggest things."

My favorite quote that I ALWAYS repeat is "If you want to change the world, go home and love your family." (Mother Teresa)
No one is asking for perfection, just for you to do the best you can. Your doing a great job and remember we all have the same worries, fears, and struggles. Be proud of all that you accomplish each day and let yourself love yourself.


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